The Man In The Mirror

The Man In The Mirror

I used to blame my problems on other people. But my moment of clarity, if you want to call it that, came when I was looking in the mirror one day and just burst into tears. It wasn't just that I looked bad; it was that I knew my problem was me.

---Tom Sizemore

I learned, when I look in the mirror and tell my story, that I should be myself and not peep whatever everybody is doing.

---Kendrick Lamar

You just have to get rid of fear and confront the world. Look at yourself in the mirror and say to yourself, 'I love you and nothing will destroy you and you're not going to fall.'

---Ricky Martin

Hold up a mirror and ask yourself what you are capable of doing, and what you really care about. Then take the initiative - don't wait for someone else to ask you to act.

---Sylvia Earle

Looking back to my days growing up to be a man, it brings memory of how  a lot of times I lived my days based on people’s comment and opinion about me, my look and my reactions towards things, at times, things people say makes me feel good and sometimes it makes me feel down. For a long time, I have pictured myself as a ship in the middle of the ocean tossed here and there by the storm but often, i have heard a soft voice from within saying if you must get to the shore, captain your ship well.

Transformation in me began when I began talking to myself more; I learnt to bless myself always and rebuke myself for any mistake I made before anyone points it to me and ever prepared to make amendment. I have always promised myself to never break down whenever I am a victim of a situation or fail to celebrate my victory, because they are gifts of life to make my story to be unique and significant.

My mother happened to be a great teacher life presented to me which I didn’t quickly recognize, may her soul rest in perfect peace. Being the last child and the only child that was living with her after my elder ones had started living alone; as a teenager and until the last day I saw her, many times she had called me late at night, early in the morning and may i say every single chance she had to talk to me, she tells of her life experiences, how she had sailed through terrible storms and managed up the hill. Her teachings made me to be brave towards life but often then, I feel bored of her stories because I prefer to stick to milk for babies like me instead of her strong food for those who are already prepared to take the bull by the horn in life, which she was already always dishing to me.

As I grew older and started having strong challenges, great encounters in life and began to unravel the mystery of life, her teachings became clearer and had been a great guide for me in life. She had often say ‘a child may have new clothes more than an adult but would never have as much rag as the adult’ which I will put in my own way that ‘the wisdom in age is a luxury especially for those who live indeed’, it is always good to learn from those who were here before us and have lived well.

There have been a lot of miracles in my life the moment I decided to have more interaction with the man in the mirror; I have had more peace, blessed myself more, rebuke and encourage myself when needed and have been strengthened to launch out on daily basis since I discovered the man in the mirror.

My daily encounter with the man in the mirror made me to love myself more and ultimately helped me to love my neighbor as myself.

These miracle is not limited to one person, it is for all; get connected to the man in the mirror and approach the person you see in the mirror every time with all positivity. You will be surprised how much joy you will have when you smile and laugh with the man in the mirror and it will be shocking when you see how funny the mouth of the man in the mirror looks when he weeps and cry, and you can’t just help it but burst into laughter to see such funny mouth and that moment you will see the man in the mirror laughing back at you.

Take it upon yourself that you will always have a daily conversation with the man in the mirror even if it’s for five minutes. See it as a responsibility to speak goodness and positivity to the man in the mirror, rebuke him when you should and encourage him never to break down but face life with the ‘I will win’ attitude no matter the confrontation or challenges. Tell the man in the mirror to be happy and believe always that nothing stays the same forever but should always keep reaching for his goals and dreams even when he fails, he must keep on trying again and again as he awaits life’s big surprises.

This simple act will bring amazing happenings to your life if you give it a try, and remember the man in the mirror is you, whatever you feed him is what your inner man gathers his strength from.

People use the mirror to check their appearance from head to toe especially when they have a large one, but it doesn’t matter how big or small a mirror is, it is a transforming tool if properly used. The mirror sees beyond your outside appearance but can easily display what is going on within you; often the expression of the inner man is what is displayed on the mirror. The man in the mirror display greatness when your inner man says I am great and you can see the man in the mirror glowing only when your inner man shows light, this also happens when it’s the opposite, the man you see in the mirror is the picture of your mind.

Go to your mirror and say you are not broken and you will see a man solid as rock appear, it may take a while before this is fully seen by the world because they are often blind to what led to eruption but the eruption, keep fighting till you have the result, feed the man in the mirror balanced diet such as determination, endurance, positivity, optimism, happiness, wisdom, diligence, knowledge, focus, love and peace and you will have an healthy man full of life achieving his/her goal, dreams and vision, and blessing lives all around the world.

I like to remind you again that life always have its big surprises, just keep doing what you know how to do best.

Till you read from me again, stay blessed!

God Loves ♥ You

Ogundipe Clement Shola
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