Anger: Rid Yourself Of It

Anger: Rid Yourself Of It

A man's wisdom gives him patience; it is to his glory to overlook an offense.

---Proverbs 19:11

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.

---Buddha

Anybody can become angry - that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way - that is not within everybody's power and is not easy.

---Aristotle

For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind.

---Ralph Waldo Emerson

Man can either make the world a beautiful and peaceful place by simple display of good humor for themselves or turn it to an awful and desolate ground by showing an uncontrollable anger towards each other. Anger makes the beautiful turn ugly, breaks the made, and stops at nothing to turn the sweet to bitter. Anger is the unseen fire in man that burns anyone who allows a little switch in emotion to kindle it in them and also leaves scars on those that encounter the fume.

According to Horace, ‘anger is a short madness’ , this proves  that whenever anyone gets angry, they certainly lose their real self and begins to do things they would never do when they are in their sane state. At the time of anger, we spit fire, voice out foolish things and take desperate actions with an unsound mind. Anger pushes man out of the do’s zone and kicks them into the pool of the don’t(s), where regrets and bitterness is the prize of the actions taken.

Anger is normal in human, but it is only healthy for our lives when it is wisely controlled, the moment it is out of our control, it becomes destructive. Anger is no strength but weakness for any man that allows it to remote their emotions. Anger is quick to destroy a sweet long friendship, beautiful marriages, career, and even lives of the people who live at its mercy. The quality of life we live is dependent upon our ability to put our anger under tight control. Our patience rather than anger makes us to be more glorified than a warrior; a man who conquers a city should not expect the blessings that a man of self-control gets.

For many years i suffered from anger, i know within me that i hate to be angry, i feel really happy when i am at peace with people in my life and i don’t want anything for whatsoever reason to terminate the joy i gain from it. Often, i try to do everything i could at my power not to wrong and hurt people in my life or do things that display me stepping on their toes and expecting others to treat me well, the same way i do to them. One thing i refused to know on time is that if you don’t hurt people they may possibly hurt you, and when some people hurt you, it doesn’t mean their actions are completely intentional. And after coming to understanding of some things in life, i have asked myself many times, how i am so sure i don’t offend or hurt people with my so called values, choices, principles, decisions, actions and attitudes ? Finding an answer to this, helped me come to a conclusion that ‘my own best food could be my neighbor’s poison and vice-versa’ this makes us different people existing in each other’s world, we just have to accept each other’s imperfection and grow together in love.

Many developed the habit of anger as result of the kind of home they come from or due to the environment they grew up in.

Kindness: Best Portion Of Man’s Life

 Kindness: Best Portion Of Man’s Life

 

 “The best portion of a good man’s life. His little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and of love.”
---William Wordsworth

This is my simple religion. There is no need for temples; no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness.

---Dalai Lama

Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.

---Mark Twain

There is a special feeling that people experience when someone is kind to them or when they are kind to another person, it creates an atmosphere of love. Kindness is the glue that holds you and i in each other’s world. Kindness is the expectation of every man from our neighbor; it is the string that ties humanity. Kindness beautifies mankind.

It will surprise you to know that many people around you even those that are smiling and perceived to have a perfect good life have bleeding wounds in their life that only that expression of kindness from you can stop the bleeding and heal their wound, the heart of every living man cries for a touch of kindness. The best way to express love towards each other is kindness, a simple act of kindness may be insignificant to you but it is unforgettable for those you do it to. The best way to register yourself in the heart of any man is to be kind or cruel to them, kindness begets love as cruelty breeds hatred, whichever you choose to exhibit will determine how colorful and bright or how void and dark your life is.

Has it ever occurred to you that many good things that walk into your life are as a result of kindness from people in your life? Be it the person you know or the ones you have no idea of their existence, our continuity in life is fueled by the kindness of people that are connected to us far and wide. Human beings begins their experience of kindness from the day we are conceived by our mothers, kudos to the super women that are kind and brave enough to keep the baby in their womb for the period of 9 months or even more, goes through labor pains and delivers the baby, takes care of the child with the awesome father , both nurturing, guarding and guiding the child through childhood till he/she is strong enough to handle life, so many babies have been denied the chance to come to the world and contribute their quota to the betterment of mankind. We experience kindness from our siblings and friends, thumbs up to those who are kind and bold enough to adopt orphans to become one of their children or to even erase their own very childlessness. Kindness remains the sunshine that brings light to our lives since the beginning of our life on earth till we pass away.

Like it is always said that what goes around comes around, a show of kindness always have a lasting impact on our lives from generation to generations. Kindness often has a ripple effect because it generates magnetic force that attracts others to be kind to us too, kindness is not done for it to be repaid but the act has the potential to pull us into the web of love.

Wisdom: The Gateway To Wealth

Wisdom: The Gateway To Wealth

---Ecclesiastes 7:12 (AMP)

For wisdom is a defense even as money is a defense, but the excellency of knowledge is that wisdom shields and preserves the life of him who has it.

"By three methods we may learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; second, by imitation, which is easiest; and third by experience, which is the bitterest."

---Confucius

“If someone has achieved ten times what you are trying to achieve once, the person knows something you don’t know.”
---Archbishop Benson Idahosa

The most inspiring thing about life is that your life is more perpetual than your worries and struggles, which mean that the darkness you experience at this stage of your life will gradually disappear because your life has a greater ability to displace it.

To live above the trials and challenges of life, wisdom becomes the principal force that is required in your life to be fulfilled, happy and wealthy. Wisdom should be omnipresent in every situations and matters of your life; it is the only thing that holds the wall of your life firmly that keeps it from collapsing, many seek money!

The life of a great man (King Solomon) has proven the potency of wisdom and as set it as a significant force that differentiates the successful from a failure, sets the gap between the poor and the rich, and separates the ones that has peace from the troubled. Wisdom is the key to wealth, peace and happiness. Wisdom is a thing to be sought and not forget because it liberates you from whatsoever that is capable of enslaving you.

King Solomon is known for his greatness, riches, great empire and above all wealth of wisdom that attracted great, mighty and noble men to him. Solomon had a special encounter with God in his dream and was given the opportunity to request for one thing, and the only thing he asked from God is ‘wisdom’ and this request opened to him a world of blessings, fame, riches, greatness, honor and wealth.

This is why in proverbs, King Solomon said wisdom is a principal thing; therefore get wisdom and with all thy getting get understanding. More so, he said how much better to get wisdom than gold and understanding is to be chosen rather than silver.

It is said that as we grow we become wiser; because experience is believed to grant wisdom to man, yet as true as it maybe age is no qualifier of wisdom only God is the ultimate source of wisdom. See what James 1:5 says ‘If any of you is deficient in wisdom, let him ask of the giving God [Who gives] to everyone liberally and ungrudgingly, without reproaching or faultfinding, and it will be given him.’  Ask Him today and you will gain wisdom.

The bitter truth is that God will not give any man wealth directly; He only gives to man the power to make wealth which can only be gained through wisdom. God makes available unto us healthy body, bright mind, wise companions, opportunities, education so we gain knowledge and understanding of whatever our heart seeks. The ball is in our court to use them all to make the best out of life, only those who devotedly live a purposeful life gets their huge share of the wealth of the universe.

Wisdom is required in every area of your life; you must be wise to be physically healthy, spiritually energetic, materially rich, educationally fulfilled, happily married, morally balanced and socially active, and experience an all-round wealth. Wisdom is required in the secular life from business to politics, and economic issues to world affairs. Wisdom is the gateway to wealth for individuals and nations.

Your Future Starts Now!

Your Future Starts Now!

Destiny is no matter of chance. It is a matter of choice. It is not a thing to be waited for; it is a thing to be achieved.

---William Jennings Bryan

The secret of your future is hidden in your daily routine.

---Mike Murdock

“People were always getting ready for tomorrow. I didn't believe in that. Tomorrow wasn't getting ready for them. It didn't even know they were there.” 

--- Cormac McCarthy

It is not in the stars to hold our destiny but in ourselves.

---William Shakespeare

Some few years ago i did have a strong attachment to believe in prophecy or divination or foretelling or whatever name you have for it. Over time i discovered that knowledge of those things could either cripple your ability to manifest greatness or encourage you to strive and get the best out of life. It has come to my understanding that knowing too much of the things that could likely come to be (the future) are absolutely not perfectly good for man. As good as knowing about the future through divinations is, the harm it could cause to one’s life is as equally weighty, there is no man as peaceful and assured of fulfillment as a man that do not ask for the prediction of his future but make effective use of today and everything therein, lives today like is the last but ready to fly if tomorrow comes.

I use to say to myself after i started to have a clearer understanding about life, i don’t need a supernatural ability to tell a man the magnitude of his greatness and what the future will definitely release to him, all i need to know is his belief system, his dreams, his visions, his attitude towards life, his investment in things of the world and people in it, and above all, his relationship with God NOW!

Every man have the sense and ability to see goodness and greatness in others, this is every reason why every man has the free will to determine who they want to be friends with or who they are connected to, that could have great influence on them and impart something of meaning in their life. This is why the relationship people have with each other is wholly or partially conditional, except God who is from the beginning of our lives to the end of it connected to us unconditionally.

Nobody wants to associate with a man that could tear the wall of their life down; we only agreeably connect to those we believe to fit into our life. As the saying goes ‘birds of a feather flocks together’ which I choose to put this way ‘every man in your life do not exist there by accident, you attracted them, if they are no longer ready to fit in for the best of your life, you know what to do, repel them’.

I do believe that i find strength to do many things i do because of my undying courage but most importantly i gain great energy to keep my chin up from motivations by people around me. Like a year ago, i was discussing with someone and i explained my financial challenges at the moment, then the person smiled and said to me ‘don’t worry Clem, i see you becoming really great, rich and very wealthy’, the words finds its way into my mind and brought perfect peace, to satisfy my curiosity, i said jokingly ‘you sound like some fortuneteller, how do you know that?’ The reply i got was ‘I can see it in your eyes, you have strong hunger for riches and greatness, and because you do, you will have it’ these words have served as a propelling force for me to make my dreams and vision a reality, and everything depends on my pull and push in life now and not later.

The outcome of today which is the product of the investment of now would be the wings which would be used to soar above the storms of tomorrow. If today is not well attended to, the tomorrow you look forward to will call your attention to the steps you missed yesterday, the truth about life is that any man who refuse to face the challenges of ‘Now’ thinking tomorrow will bring goodness and fortune on a silver platter has just welcomed to his life difficulty and hardship.

The Proverbs 22:29 (NKJV) says ‘Do you see a man who excels in his work? He will stand before kings; He will not stand before unknown men’. This simply clears the mentality of anyone seeing race and environment as limiting factor to rising to great heights in life, the only thing that can keep you down until you say NO, is not striving to be better and doing your best in whatever your hands finds doing now. The password to greatness and attracting men of great personality to your life, is creating value for your life today, men of value don’t live to bow to kings or circled by mere men but rule and rub minds with kings and men of high caliber.

No one is certain of what tomorrow holds or sure of been alive to mark the calendar, the only thing we are certain about is now. We don’t have to worry about tomorrow, let tomorrow worry about us, if we deal well with the things of today, tomorrow has got the task to land us where we deserve, and if tomorrow never comes, we would have no regret of wasting our today expecting tomorrow to save our ass. If tomorrow comes and you are there, lucky you but don’t forget that in the book of life, tomorrow expects you to have read today’s chapter to be knowledgeable enough to understand the contents of its own pages.

The door to the unknown of the future can only be unlocked by the activities you involve yourself in energetically today which is the undisputable master key. If you will stop to deceive yourself, you know easily many times when you do things that are productive and looking forward to its blessings and you can tell when you do things that you are not ready for or want to experience the consequence, this is why every man can decide what future they want for themselves and it starts about now.

See a young man that got a prophecy of his future to be so bright and colorful filled with blessings and goodness, he was so glad, went back to his home having a beautiful picture of future in his heart. All he does every day is sleep, eat and tell everyone around him i will be great and rich, I will eat in the palace of the kings and have many beautiful women around me, and oh I will even gain the whole world. Day after, decades after decades, he became stricken in age and has amounted to nothing but lost the youthful strength to pursue anything, all he could say unto himself is ‘woe unto me that i got the prediction of my future and never do what I should do to make it a reality from my Now then that is thousands of yesterday’s now’.

I look around and i saw another man who wept profusely saying woe unto himself because he just got the worst revelation of his life, he has been told he would be a slave in the garden of the king and eats crumbs from the table of the king. He wept for days but one day said to him, why weep i here till i leave the face of the earth and will have no one to bury me but dogs to eat my carcass. He stood up to the challenge of life, he starts to seek God’s face and do whatever his hand finds well, sought wisdom and knowledge, he helped people in whatever capacity he could, he makes friends with noble men and takes their advice and act on it, he saw his mission was to impact humanity positively, after several years he became a man after people’s heart and he didn't only hangout with the kings but he became a king to many who believe in his ideal for life.

I hope you can choose which man you want to be among the two.

The future belongs to you and I that prepare for it now, so wake up and live now, the future can only switch from being a promise of good things to being a threat of difficulty, if we fail to make effective use of the now we have got. Your future begins now; make it a wonderful and colorful one.

I see an assurance of a fulfilling life for you as from now if you will just take action. Go and make it happen!

God Loves ♥ You

Ogundipe Clement Shola

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